Queer and Trans Storytelling Workshop is Canceled

Unfortunately, I will not be moving forward with my previously announced Queer and Trans Storytelling Workshop at Liminal (a feminist writing space in Oakland). I am going to explain why, because I think that folks in trans communities in the Bay Area may find the information helpful. The contract I was provided by Liminal misgendered […]

Bisexuality and Me: One Trans Experience

(Some notes about content: this post speaks openly about queer and trans oppression and in particular talks about intra-community gender border wars and ciscentrism. It also tells a story about my own experiences of internalized queer oppression as a kid, related to a queer hating therapist. It also references my queer kink erotica without sharing […]

Happy Birthday to Me

I turn 41 tomorrow. If you want to help me celebrate my birthday, I sure would appreciate the following birthday present: donate to one of these great crowdfunding campaigns or organizations doing work I care about. The Sex Positive Education and Event Center in Portland MyTransHealth (a healthcare website for trans folks) Trans Lifeline (a […]

Being a Disabled Top in Kink Community

This post is based on the talk I gave at the Center for Sex and Culture last summer as part of a panel about kink and disability. It is posted as part of Blogging Against Disablism Day (BADD). This post is about my experience of uncovering limitations related to being a disabled top, and figuring […]

Valentine’s Day 2015

I love seasonal candy. I love walking the candy aisles, looking at all the new offerings for Christmas, Easter, Halloween, Valentines Day. It’s one of my favorite kinds of shopping, and I often do a bit of perusing and coming back later and perusing some more, before I buy anything. I find it calming, and deeply […]

Happy Birthday to Me

I turn 40 tomorrow. I’m pretty excited about it. If you want to help me celebrate my birthday, I sure would appreciate any of the following birthday presents: Post a review of one of my stories, or of a book in which my work appears (on Goodreads, Amazon, on your blog, wherever), and point me to […]