Navigating Kink Life as a Disabled Butch: Workshop Materials

I am teaching an interactive discussion-based workshop on Navigating Kink Life as a Disabled Butch at Butch Voices on Friday August 18 at 10:45am in Oakland. In this post, I’m going to share information and resources that I’m including in that workshop. Here is the description: If you are a kinky disabled butch, or you do […]

Happy Birthday to Me

I turn 41 tomorrow. If you want to help me celebrate my birthday, I sure would appreciate the following birthday present: donate to one of these great crowdfunding campaigns or organizations doing work I care about. The Sex Positive Education and Event Center in Portland MyTransHealth (a healthcare website for trans folks) Trans Lifeline (a […]

Negotiating D/s relationships

I love writing moments of negotiation. To be fair, I love doing negotiation; I generally find it really hot. I know that’s not everyone’s experience. I also love teaching negotiation, and have a couple classes that I teach on relationship negotiation, one more focused on initial negotiation and one focused on re-negotiation within polyamory. I’m […]

Save the date: panel on kink & disability 8/23 in SF

I’m excited to announce that I will be on a panel discussing kink and disability in San Francisco in a couple weeks. When: Saturday August 23rd, 2014. 6-830pm Where: The Center for Sex and Culture 1349 Mission Street  San Francisco, CA [Between 9th and 10th Streets, on the corner of Grace Street] Who: Nomy Lam, Carrie […]

Happy Birthday to Me

I turn 40 tomorrow. I’m pretty excited about it. If you want to help me celebrate my birthday, I sure would appreciate any of the following birthday presents: Post a review of one of my stories, or of a book in which my work appears (on Goodreads, Amazon, on your blog, wherever), and point me to […]

On Compersion

This is my stop on the blog tour for Alison Tyler’s new book, Never Say Never: Tips, Tricks, and Erotic Inspiration for Lovers. I have snippets from three stories included as “erotic inspiration”. I’ve already written about the backstory for “Strong”, and for “Nervous Boy”, so this post will be about the origins of my […]

Aftercare: In Kink and Erotica

I’ve been sick lately, but not just with migraines (which have me avoiding screens and all light and sound), so I have finally been able to break in my new (free!) TV, and DVD player ($16!) with a double feature: Pride and Prejudice (1940 version) and Bride and Prejudice (2004 Bollywood-style musical parody by Gurinder […]