Why I Care About Depicting Survivors of Abusive BDSM Continuing to Do Kink

As a heads up, this post discusses abusive BDSM relationships, intimate partner violence, and sexual assault. It also discusses ableism and stigma around mental illness in kink communities, anti-kink prejudice in survivor spaces and therapeutic treatment, and kink community responses to abuse. It includes a brief reference to an abusive therapist. It includes a brief […]

A Birthday Exerpt from Shocking Violet

I thought I would post an excerpt from Shocking Violet, my kinky queer polyamorous romance novel WIP, for my birthday, as a present for you. As Zak has a birthday in the timeframe of the novel, that section seems like the best choice, given the occasion. Zaks birthday is a turning point in the story, in […]

On Taboo Erotica

As a heads up, this post discusses taboo erotica. It mentions and occasionally gives examples that briefly describe some content of taboo erotica and some common taboo kinks like incest play, nonconsent, and water sports. It also discusses being a survivor of trauma and having taboo fantasies, though not in detail. I’ve been writing and […]

Queer Romance Writing Resources

I’m gathering resources here for writers of queer romance. This is a work in progress. I will gladly take any recommendations you have for resources. I will keep adding to this list. Resources with big archives/many links: The Hopeless Romantic podcast focuses on queer romance, and spends a bunch of time talking craft. Read With […]

Essays and Resources about Writing Trans and/or Non-Binary Literature

At the end of my list of links to reviews of trans and/or non-binary literature by trans and/or non-binary reviewers, there is a resource list. I pulled out most of it as a separate resource post for writers, and then added to it. All of these essays and resources were written/created by trans and/or non-binary […]

A Valentines Day Excerpt from Shocking Violet

I thought I would post an excerpt from Shocking Violet, my kinky queer polyamorous romance novel WIP, for Valentine’s Day, as a present for you. It’s been over a year since I posted one, and I am nearing the finish line in my first draft. This is from Jax and Violet’s second date. Jax is […]

Valuing the dominants consent and needs in kink negotiation

(As a heads up, this post will discuss consent and negotiation in BDSM, and specifically focuses on D/s. It briefly references consen violations, abuse, and sexual assault)    “Building Something New” is a D/s focused story centering two trans queers who have been regular play partners for two years and are exploring taking their D/s […]