On Jonah’s Book, and Centering My Disabled Perspective

This post was written for Blogging Against Disablism Day 2017. In 2013 I began working on what I think of as Jonah’s Book. (It doesn’t have a proper title yet.) I had read Alison Tyler’s Dark Secret Love, and its sequel The Delicious Torment, and begun to contemplate a project playing with a similar mix […]

Going at My Own Pace, Part II: An Excerpt from Shocking Violet

Yesterday, I posted an essay about pace, and disability, and how reading Rose Lemberg‘s novelette, Geometries of Belonging, cracked something open for me as a writer around pace in Shocking Violet. I talked about how I was writing in a way that moved at my own disabled pace, and that honored the disabled realities of my characters. I […]

My 2015 Book List: New Romances I Found This Year

So, as the booklists of 2015 abound, I’ve been thinking about my reading habits in 2015. They changed dramatically. I used to go to the library about once per week, and 90% of the books I read were hard copy. I found books in a combination of ways, but primarily I reread books I already […]

Being a Disabled Top in Kink Community

This post is based on the talk I gave at the Center for Sex and Culture last summer as part of a panel about kink and disability. It is posted as part of Blogging Against Disablism Day (BADD). This post is about my experience of uncovering limitations related to being a disabled top, and figuring […]

Access Intimacy: The Missing Link

Originally posted on Leaving Evidence:
There are many ways to describe intimacy.  For example, there’s physical intimacy, emotional intimacy, intellectual, political, familial or sexual intimacy.  But, as a physically disabled woman, there is another kind of intimacy I have been struggling to name and describe, what I have been calling “access intimacy.” I have begun…