Free Tam Lin Retelling by Kayla Bashe, to honor Non Linear Tam

(As a heads up, this post mentions suicide.) If you have read Show Yourself To Me, you likely will not be surprised by my love for the Tam Lin story. (My story, “The Tale of Jan and Tam” is a queer kink erotica Tam Lin retelling centering two disabled genderqueer characters, and set at Carter […]

Writing Sex Scenes With Less Cissexism, Pt 1: Betweeen Characters

This is the first post in a series for writers, especially writers of erotica and romance. This series is focused on writing sex scenes with trans and/or non-binary characters in a way that includes less unintentional cissexism. This post focuses on cissexism between characters during sex scenes: what it can look like, with concrete examples. Part 2 focuses […]

On #WorldMentalHealthDay, talking about stigma and internalized ableism

I had a conversation with my (fairly new) therapist recently. I was talking about a situation that had triggered my internalized ableism around my mental health in particular. I used the words internalized ableism. She was confused. Said she understood what internalized ableism is, but didn’t get how it applied in the situation. Turns out […]

Links of the Week 10/1/16

I am starting this up again, because I have found so many amazing things recently. Here are some of the great things I have read or listened to this past week, my recommendations to you. Two links about disability and kink: This article about disabled people’s experiences in kink community that shares perspectives from Shanna Katz Kattari, […]

Links of the Week 6/8/16

Here are some of the great things I have read this past week, my recommendations to you. So one of the best things on the internet recently was Annabeth Leong’s Many Note Challenge, which occurred over a series of posts and is explained in the excerpt below. First post. Second post. Third post. And a […]

Links of the Week 5/4/16

So I’m enjoying sharing links to awesome things I’ve found,  discussing the things I often write about here: kink, trauma, writing, polyamory, representation of marginalized folks, oppression, sexuality, disability, queerness, fat activism, erotica, trans and non-binary daily life. Here are the ones I found this past week. Neve Be’s beautiful piece, “Virgins in Time” on time […]

Links of the Week 4/27/16

I’m trying out sharing a short list of links to things I’ve found on the internet that I think are particularly worth reading, about the things I often write about here: kink, trauma, writing, polyamory, representation of marginalized folks, oppression, disability, sexuality, queerness, fat activism, trans and non-binary daily life. Queenie on grey areas of […]