On Internalizing the Cis Gaze When Thinking About Sex and Relationships

As a heads up, this essay tells several detailed stories about transmasculine people internalizing the cis gaze and passing those messages on to other transmasculine people, particularly with regards to sex, dating, romance, and relationships, and the representation of trans and/or non-binary people in romance and erotica. It includes descriptions of cissexism and internalized trans […]

A hopeful excerpt for a hard day

It’s been a rough week. In the world, and for me. So I thought I might post a good-sized chunk of Shocking Violet that feels especially hopeful and cozy, and introduce you to Zak while I’m at it. If you want to know more about these characters or read previous excerpts, you can find a […]

Links of the Week 6/8/16

Here are some of the great things I have read this past week, my recommendations to you. So one of the best things on the internet recently was Annabeth Leong’s Many Note Challenge, which occurred over a series of posts and is explained in the excerpt below. First post. Second post. Third post. And a […]

Links of the week 6/1/16

Here are some of the awesome things I have read this past week, my recommendations to you. This advice column by Rachel on Autostraddle feels like it explains something critically important about trauma and ways we go along with other people’s realities. It’s focused on biphobia in an intimate relationship, and it feels like it […]

Presenting on emotional armor at Butch Voices in a couple weeks

I am pleased to announce that I will be presenting at the 2013 Butch Voices conference in Oakland California. The conference is from August 15-18th. I will be presenting this workshop, which I am very much looking forward to facilitating: Doing Relationships with Emotional Armor: For Stones and our Partners Stones are often expected to […]