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Tag Archives: survival

Personal Update

November 13, 2017 · by xanwest | in Personal | tagged crowdfunding, Shocking Violet, survival | 1 Comment

I want to thank you for  boosting and donating to my fundraiser this spring to help me resist homelessness and secure my housing until I was able to get on SSDI. It means so much to me to be part of such amazing communities who gave so generously to support me. I am more grateful […]

#DailyCoping Strategies Round Up

November 18, 2016 · by xanwest | in Community, Consent and Anti-Violence | tagged autism, coping, mental health, mental illness, survival, survivor, trauma | 3 Comments

I began a new project this week. Each day, on twitter, I do a series of tweets describing one of my coping strategies and talking about how it works, what it is esp useful for, where I learned about it. I am storifying these tweets, and collecting the links to the storifies in this post. […]

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Top Posts & Pages

  • Queer Daddy erotica stories with characters pushing their edges
  • My Trans and Genderqueer Erotica
  • What Is Stone?

Blogroll

  • 5 Ways to Make the YA Book Community More Inclusive for Teenagers
  • A Roundup of Things I’ve Written About Trauma and Abuse
  • Alysia Angel
  • Border War Dispatches
  • Circumstance and Carefulness
  • Engaging with YA from a Trauma Framework: Trigger Warnings for Readers
  • How to Review A Trans Book As a Cis Person
  • I Didn’t Dream of Dragons
  • kinky parts
  • Leaving Evidence
  • My monthly column at Erotica Readers And Writers Association
  • Native Appropriations
  • Poly Means Polynesian, Not Polyamorous
  • Racebending
  • Red Umbrella Project
  • San Francisco Sex Worker Film and Arts Festival
  • Shweta Narayan's blog
  • Syrens
  • The Author's Guide to Author-Reviewer Interactions
  • The Jaded Matron
  • This Ain't Livin
  • Thorns In My Throat: Writing Through the Scars

Reviews & Responses

  • Geometries of Belonging by Rose Lemberg
  • Grandmother-nai-Leylit’s Cloth of Winds by Rose Lemberg
  • One Disabled Sadist’s Response to Risk Aware by Amelia C. Gormley
  • Untouched by Annabeth Leong

Xan Wests Erotica Round Ups

  • Edgy Erotica Roundup
  • Erotica Featuring Group Sex
  • ftm/cisgender man pairings in erotic stories
  • Kinky erotica from the top’s point of view
  • Queer Daddy erotica stories (esp. with characters pushing edges)
  • Xan West's Trans and Genderqueer Erotica

Calls for Submission

  • Cindy Myers Market News Blog
  • Erotica (ERWA)
  • Lambda Literary

Writer's Resources

  • Bex's Yes/No/Maybe Negotiation Checklist
  • Claire Light's blog (posts on writing)
  • Dragons, heroes and spaceships: pushing against received narratives
  • Ellen Klages on Writing Process
  • Fat Characters in Romance & Erotica: What I Don't Want to Read Anymore & Why
  • For comparing character heights
  • How Sex Scenes Are Like Show Tunes
  • How To Write About Sex Without Being Boring
  • How to Write Erotic Fiction
  • I Didn’t Dream of Dragons
  • Intern's Advice for Writers (round up of links)
  • My monthly column at Erotica Readers And Writers Association
  • my writing about writing
  • N.K. Jemisin's Reconciliation speech
  • On Writing Disability in Erotica
  • random name generator (U.S. census based)
  • The Author's Guide to Author-Reviewer Interactions
  • The Breathings of My Heart
  • Thorns In My Throat: Writing Through the Scars
  • VONA/Voices: Writing Workshops for Writers of Color
  • Writing Characters of Color: a long list of links
  • Writing Characters Who Are Trauma Survivors: A Blog Series
  • Writing with Color
  • Xan West's Resource List on Writing the Other

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Writer's Blogs

  • Alison Tyler's blog
  • Alysia Angel
  • Kate Elliot's blog
  • Kristin Cashore's blog
  • Laurell K Hamilton's blog
  • Malinda Lo's blog
  • N.K. Jemesin's blog
  • Shweta Narayan's blog
  • The Breathings of My Heart

Consent and Anti-Violence Work

  • A Roundup of Things I’ve Written About Trauma and Abuse
  • Bex's Yes/No/Maybe Negotiation Checklist
  • Circumstance and Carefulness
  • Creative Interventions Toolkit: A Practical Guide to Stop Interpersonal Violence
  • In Support of the Practice of Discerning Abusive Dynamics and Behaviors
  • Incite: Women of Color Against Violence
  • Support New York Pillars

Sex and Kink

  • Bex's Yes/No/Maybe Negotiation Checklist
  • Center for Sex and Culture
  • kinky parts
  • San Francisco Sex Information
  • Scarleteen (sex ed for youth)
  • Sex Geek
  • The Jaded Matron
  • Why Do We Like BDSM?

Sex Work

  • Born Whore: just another angry revolutionary hooker
  • Global Network of Sex Work Projects
  • Lusty Lady Oral History Project
  • Post Whore America
  • Red Umbrella Project
  • San Francisco Sex Worker Film and Arts Festival
  • Sex Workers Outreach Project Chicago
  • The Sex Workers Project NYC
  • Tits and Sass

Disability & Access

  • A few resources on kink & chronic pain
  • AXS Map (a yelp for wheelchair access)
  • “I Sit on Her Face All Day”: A Conversation on Sex and Wheelchairs
  • Being a Disabled Top in Kink Community
  • Building Radical Accessible Communities Everywhere
  • Eli Clare
  • Leaving Evidence
  • On Writing Disability in Erotica
  • PSA: When You Actually Welcome Us Shit's Gonna Change
  • Resources for superfat folks looking for medical imaging
  • Sins Invalid
  • The Spoon Theory
  • This Ain't Livin

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Queer and Trans Politics

  • A Fabulous Attitude: LGBTGNC People Surviving & Thriving on Shelter, Love & Knowledge
  • Argument for Stronger Trans-Inclusion (CC4D collective)
  • Border War Dispatches
  • Debunking Testosterone Myths
  • Desiring Change
  • Flamingo Rampant
  • How to Review A Trans Book As a Cis Person
  • One Trans Response to “Grandmother-nai-Leylit’s Cloth of Winds”
  • resources on transmisogyny (esp. focused on the transmisogyny of transmasculine folks)
  • The problem I have when I read “no cis men (yes trans guys)” on a dating profile
  • What to Do When You Accidentally Misgender A Trans &/or Non-Binary Person
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