Links of the Week 6/8/16

Here are some of the great things I have read this past week, my recommendations to you. So one of the best things on the internet recently was Annabeth Leong’s Many Note Challenge, which occurred over a series of posts and is explained in the excerpt below. First post. Second post. Third post. And a […]

Links of the week 6/1/16

Here are some of the awesome things I have read this past week, my recommendations to you. This advice column by Rachel on Autostraddle feels like it explains something critically important about trauma and ways we go along with other people’s realities. It’s focused on biphobia in an intimate relationship, and it feels like it […]

Links of the Week 5/11/16

Here are some of the brilliant things I have read this past week, my recommendations to you. First I need to start with the amazing online poetry anthology Hard Femme Poetics: A Poetic Anthology of Femme Literary Brilliance, ed. by Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha. I am taking this in slowly, a few poems at a time. […]

One Top’s Perspective On Talking Publicly About Kink Relationships and Exes

When I publicly tell stories about my own kink experiences (which I do quite frequently both as a kink educator and on this site), it is primarily in service of a goal: to illustrate something I’m trying to explain, to make a point, to give context, to articulate something about myself or something I’ve learned, […]

A Tease from Shocking Violet

My #NaNoWriMo WIP is tentatively titled Shocking Violet, and I am really enjoying the long form of it, the time to sink into flirtation and attraction. That’s new for me. My smut tends towards starting en media res, or getting right down to the action pretty quick. It often features characters that are already in […]

The problem I have when I read “no cis men (yes trans guys)” on a dating profile

(Note: this post was sparked by a post on Fetlife on this topic. I am bringing my thoughts here because I want them to be publicly accessible. There is already a lively dialogue on the OP, which I encourage you to explore.) I’m sitting at my computer, checking out another queer’s profile on Fetlife or […]

On the trouble that can come from writing to meet our own needs

This is a rather long post, both personal and political, that engages with my own erotic writing and gives a concrete example from my own work of the trouble that can come from writing to meet our own needs (something I have done quite a lot), and how I’ve attempted to address that trouble. I […]