One Disabled Sadist’s Response to Risk Aware by Amelia C. Gormley

Earlier this week, I asked Twitter for recommendations of books that centered characters with chronic pain, characters that were not cure-seeking and do not get cured. One book that was recommended was Risk Aware by Amelia C. Gormley. It’s an M/M BDSM romance with a main character, Geoff, who has hemophilia, and has never found […]

Links of the Week 6/8/16

Here are some of the great things I have read this past week, my recommendations to you. So one of the best things on the internet recently was Annabeth Leong’s Many Note Challenge, which occurred over a series of posts and is explained in the excerpt below. First post. Second post. Third post. And a […]

Memories of wax

This morning, the scent of wax brought waves of memory. Dripping wax on my own skin when I was a teenager, long before I let myself admit that I was kinky, soaking up the feeling of inflicting pain. I used up a whole box of fancy blue and green candles, four different shades, very slowly. […]

A few resources on kink and chronic pain

In kink communities, we don’t talk a lot about chronic pain. We talk about pain as solely sexy, as punishment, as desired. In general our communities want to spend time talking about fun, hotness, and desire, and are much less interested in conversation about things like oppression, illness, disability, nonconsensual violence, or chronic pain. Someday, […]

How much realism *should* be part of BDSM erotica?

A few years ago, I was reading my work at a BDSM themed erotica event. I chose to read a story about two trans guys because there were no other queer stories being read (in fact one of the stories that was read had some rather intense homophobia in it), and I wanted to have […]