Links of the Week 5/4/16

So I’m enjoying sharing links to awesome things I’ve found,  discussing the things I often write about here: kink, trauma, writing, polyamory, representation of marginalized folks, oppression, sexuality, disability, queerness, fat activism, erotica, trans and non-binary daily life. Here are the ones I found this past week. Neve Be’s beautiful piece, “Virgins in Time” on time […]

Centering Disabled Characters in My Erotica

This post has been written for Blogging Against Disablism Day 2016. In 2012, I started a new phase of writing. I decided to deliberately center disabled and sick characters in my erotic writing. This project began with the initial writing of my Tam Lin retelling, “The Tale of Jan & Tam,” in which I imagine […]

Noticing Oppressive Ways of Thinking

I have spent much of my life working to unpack and address the legacies of abusive power, colonization, and oppression that I have internalized. It is life-long work. Work I find essential to being the person I want to be and doing the work I need to do in the world. Work that helps me […]

The Queer and Trans Love Stories I Need

(Some notes about content: this post speaks openly about queer and trans oppression and the ways those things are embedded in queer and trans representations in fiction, which includes multiple brief references to violence, murder, suicide, self loathing, and the death and tragedy of queer characters. It also tells a fairly detailed story about my […]

One Trans Response to “Grandmother-nai-Leylit’s Cloth of Winds”

  About content: this post speaks openly (and in some detail) about trans oppression in queer communities (with a focus on the ways trans men are targeted), gender border wars, purging, and gender-based coercion and abuse in relationships. Most of that discussion is in the first section, so if you want to avoid it, skip […]

Books By Trans and Non-Binary Authors

It’s World Book Day, so I thought I’d share some recommendations of books by trans and non-binary authors.  Please feel free to share your own recommendations in the comments! Novels Nevada by Imogen Binnie Yemaya’s Daughters by Dane Figueroa Edidi (also try Brew) Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg He Mele A Hilo by Ryka […]

Writing Fat Characters In Erotica: Why It Matters To Me

As a heads up, this post contains brief descriptions of sex and detailed descriptions of the ways fat oppression intersects with sexuality. As an adolescent, most of my peers thought I could not possibly be a viable sexual object, because I was fat. They made it clear that no one would ever want to date […]

Ways Trauma Survivors Manage Triggers: Info for Writers

This is the third post in my series focused on writing characters who are trauma survivors, a series written especially for erotica, erotic romance, and romance writers. I recommend you check out the first post, in which I define trauma and talk about why you might want to write it realistically, and the second post, […]

Links of the Week 4/27/16

I’m trying out sharing a short list of links to things I’ve found on the internet that I think are particularly worth reading, about the things I often write about here: kink, trauma, writing, polyamory, representation of marginalized folks, oppression, disability, sexuality, queerness, fat activism, trans and non-binary daily life. Queenie on grey areas of […]

Links of the Week 4/20/16

I’m going to try sharing a short list of links to things I’ve found on the internet that I think are particularly worth reading. Stories and blog posts about the things I often write about here: kink, trauma, writing, polyamory, representation of marginalized folks, oppression, disability, queerness, fat activism, trans and non-binary daily life. I […]

A Selection of Poetry by LGBTQ Women, for International Women’s Day

So I thought I would gather some beloved poems by LGBTQ women writers, to honor International Women’s Day 2016. These poems are dear to me, and just a small taste of what these amazing poets have to offer. They kicked my ass, or made me cry, or held my heart gently, or met me exactly […]