Essays and Resources about Writing Trans and/or Non-Binary Literature

At the end of my list of links to reviews of trans and/or non-binary literature by trans and/or non-binary reviewers, there is a resource list. I am pulling out most of it as a separate resource post for writers. All of these essays and resources were written/created by trans and/or non-binary writers. General Essays On […]

A Valentines Day Excerpt from Shocking Violet

I thought I would post an excerpt from Shocking Violet, my kinky queer polyamorous romance novel WIP, for Valentine’s Day, as a present for you. It’s been over a year since I posted one, and I am nearing the finish line in my first draft. This is from Jax and Violet’s second date. Jax is […]

My Top Holiday Romances

This post focuses on fall and winter holidays and includes romances centered around these: Halloween, Samhain, Durga Puja, Chanukah, Winter Solstice, Christmas, Kwanzaa, New Years Eve. (About half are Christmas stories,  there are so many more out there.) It definitely shows my bias towards contemporary romance, but there is a smattering of fantasy and historical romance […]

Valuing the dominants consent and needs in kink negotiation

(As a heads up, this post will discuss consent and negotiation in BDSM, and specifically focuses on D/s. It briefly references consen violations, abuse, and sexual assault)    “Building Something New” is a D/s focused story centering two trans queers who have been regular play partners for two years and are exploring taking their D/s […]

An Interview With Shira Glassman about Eitan’s Chord

I adored Eitan’s Chord, the queer Chanukah erotica rerelease by Shira Glassman in which an trio of queer women Chanukah fairies (including a butch fairy!) have sex to create the energy to grant the wishes of a sweet trans man/cis woman couple. I was lucky enough to get a chance to ask a few questions […]

Navigating Kink Life as a Disabled Butch: Workshop Materials

I am teaching an interactive discussion-based workshop on Navigating Kink Life as a Disabled Butch at Butch Voices on Friday August 18 at 10:45am in Oakland. In this post, I’m going to share information and resources that I’m including in that workshop. Here is the description: If you are a kinky disabled butch, or you do […]

On Internalizing the Cis Gaze When Thinking About Sex and Relationships

As a heads up, this essay tells several detailed stories about transmasculine people internalizing the cis gaze and passing those messages on to other transmasculine people, particularly with regards to sex, dating, romance, and relationships, and the representation of trans and/or non-binary people in romance and erotica. It includes descriptions of cissexism and internalized trans […]

Writing Sex Scenes With Less Cissexism, Pt 2: Story Level Trans-Exclusion

This is the second post in a series for writers, especially writers of erotica and romance. This series is focused on writing sex scenes with trans and/or non-binary characters in a way that includes less unintentional cissexism. Part 1 focused on cissexism between characters during sex scenes. Parts 2-6 focus on bigger picture questions and narrative […]

Centering Disabled Characters in My Erotica

This post has been written for Blogging Against Disablism Day 2016. In 2012, I started a new phase of writing. I decided to deliberately center disabled and sick characters in my erotic writing. This project began with the initial writing of my Tam Lin retelling, “The Tale of Jan & Tam,” in which I imagine […]

Writing Fat Characters In Erotica: Why It Matters To Me

As a heads up, this post contains brief descriptions of sex and detailed descriptions of the ways fat oppression intersects with sexuality. As an adolescent, most of my peers thought I could not possibly be a viable sexual object, because I was fat. They made it clear that no one would ever want to date […]

Queer Romance Writing Resources

I’m gathering resources here for writers of queer romance. This is a work in progress. I will gladly take any recommendations you have for resources. I will keep adding to this list. Resources with big archives/many links: The Hopeless Romantic podcast focuses on queer romance, and spends a bunch of time talking craft. Read With […]