Erotica Calls-Spring 2015

(Updated 3/21/15) Note: this list is not intended to be comprehensive. It leans toward short fiction calls, and makes special effort to include queer erotica and erotic romance calls. Caroline Manchoulas and Harper Bliss (Ladylit Publishing) are looking for lesbian summer love stories (3/31/15) Go Deeper Press is having an erotica and erotic romance contest […]

One Sadist’s Consent

My Consent-Seeking Approach I’m the kind of dominant that carefully negotiates the aspects of control we might play with. The kind of top that lays out a set of tools and asks you to examine and select from them. The kind of butch that asks, politely, if it is alright to flirt with you. My […]

I Talk A Lot, But Not About That

When we talk about play in kink community, we often focus on the bottom’s experience, the bottom’s desires and needs, the bottom’s journey in a scene, without discussing the top’s experience, desires, needs, or journey. I’ve seen this in the way we talk about negotiation, warm up, and aftercare, where the focus is on the […]

A Few Things I Wish I’d Known About Sex, Dating, & Kink

A Letter to My Younger Genderqueer Self There are no rules that will actually make sense to you about how to date. It’s ok. You’ll figure out how to date anyway. After all, you can’t understand the rules about gender, and even if you did you wouldn’t fit them, and don’t really want to most […]

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Another Taste of Shocking Violet: First Kiss

I’ve been writing up a storm for #NaNoWriMo this weekend, in huge bursts. One of the things I got to write was Jax and Violet’s first kiss. I love the way Violet continually throws Jax for a loop, and needed that to be a thread in this simple walk to the subway and kiss goodnight. […]

Imagining Disabled Characters in Erotica

About two years ago, Sharon Wachsler asked Sinclair Sexsmith this question, as part of an interview about Best Lesbian Erotica 2012: “what would it add for you to find more disabled characters in erotica?” I thought it was a really useful question, and I wanted to contemplate it, and perhaps blog about it. It’s taken me […]

Resources on “Writing the Other”

(updated on 3/30/15) “Writing the Other” is a phrase people mostly use to mean one of two things: writing about/from the POV of characters/people that are significantly different from you, belong to different communities, particularly along lines of power and privilege (e.g. race, gender, sexuality, disability, class) writing about/from the POV of characters/people that are […]

Elust #68

Welcome to Elust #68 – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #69? Start with the rules, come back April 1st […]