Xan Reads Smut: A recording of “Willing”

From October-December, I will be posting audio recordings from Show Yourself To Me, one per month. This month, you can listen to me read an abridged version of “Willing”. (It’s abridged because the recording would be too long otherwise!) This story centers a vampire gay cis man falling for a human trans guy. It is the […]

Writing Sex Scenes With Less Cissexism, Pt 2: Story Level Trans-Exclusion

This is the second post in a series for writers, especially writers of erotica and romance. This series is focused on writing sex scenes with trans and/or non-binary characters in a way that includes less unintentional cissexism. Part 1 focused on cissexism between characters during sex scenes. Parts 2-6 focus on bigger picture questions and narrative […]

Jax and Rickie’s First Kiss

The past few days, I posted things that I thought might be a balm or a comfort to folks reeling from these awful election results, and the subsequent violence and fear we are living under right now. Today, I thought I would share one of the sweeter moments in my current work in progress, Shocking […]

Free Stories and Poetry by Queer, Trans and Non-Binary Authors

One of the things I often turn to in times of great difficulty and despair, especially when searching for hope, is the work of queer, trans, and non-binary authors. So I put together a list of free stories and poems, available online now, to share with you, gathered by theme. Love and Revolution: INTIFADA INCANTATION: […]

Writing Sex Scenes With Less Cissexism, Pt 1: Betweeen Characters

This is the first post in a series for writers, especially writers of erotica and romance. This series is focused on writing sex scenes with trans and/or non-binary characters in a way that includes less unintentional cissexism. This post focuses on cissexism between characters during sex scenes: what it can look like, with concrete examples. Part 2 focuses […]

Going At My Own Pace: The Impact of Rose Lemberg’s “Geometries of Belonging”

We have this saying in my chosen family of fat disabled queers: “Go at your own pace.” A saying, a reminder. To ourselves, and each other. A way of holding onto our reality, insisting it is enough. A counter to the thousand tiny and huge ways that the world insists that we are too slow, […]

Bisexuality and Me: One Trans Experience

  (Some notes about content: this post speaks openly about queer and trans oppression and in particular talks about intra-community gender border wars and ciscentrism. It also tells a story about my own experiences of internalized queer oppression as a kid, related to a queer hating therapist. It also references my queer kink erotica without […]

Centering Disabled Characters in My Erotica

This post has been written for Blogging Against Disablism Day 2016. In 2012, I started a new phase of writing. I decided to deliberately center disabled and sick characters in my erotic writing. This project began with the initial writing of my Tam Lin retelling, “The Tale of Jan & Tam,” in which I imagine […]

Writing Fat Characters In Erotica: Why It Matters To Me

As a heads up, this post contains brief descriptions of sex and detailed descriptions of the ways fat oppression intersects with sexuality. As an adolescent, most of my peers thought I could not possibly be a viable sexual object, because I was fat. They made it clear that no one would ever want to date […]

Ways Trauma Survivors Manage Triggers: Info for Writers

This is the third post in my series focused on writing characters who are trauma survivors, a series written especially for erotica, erotic romance, and romance writers. I recommend you check out the first post, in which I define trauma and talk about why you might want to write it realistically, and the second post, […]

Short Form Romance and Erotica

A friend asked me to recommend some romance and erotica. She’s a spoonie, and specifically requested shorter forms because pain and low spoons makes reading novels challenging. So I put together a list of a few of my faves.  I’m going to start with novels and novelettes, grouped by type. Geeky Sated by Rebekah Weatherspoon: […]

elust 88

Welcome to Elust 88– The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #89 Start with the rules, come back December 1st to […]

Free Tam Lin Retelling by Kayla Bashe, to honor Non Linear Tam

(As a heads up, this post mentions suicide.) If you have read Show Yourself To Me, you likely will not be surprised by my love for the Tam Lin story. (My story, “The Tale of Jan and Tam” is a queer kink erotica Tam Lin retelling centering two disabled genderqueer characters, and set at Carter […]