Ask the Author: A Sex Question

I got a question from someone who was reading my queer kink erotica collection, Show Yourself to Me. Since this is a rather common thing that I get asked about, I thought I’d post the question and my answer here. (As a heads up, this post openly discusses a Daddy/boy relationship, blood sports, sex, barebacking […]

Why I Care About Depicting Survivors of Abusive BDSM Continuing to Do Kink

As a heads up, this post discusses abusive BDSM relationships, intimate partner violence, and sexual assault. It also discusses ableism and stigma around mental illness in kink communities, anti-kink prejudice in survivor spaces and therapeutic treatment, and kink community responses to abuse. It includes a brief reference to an abusive therapist. It includes a brief […]

Stories with Disabled Characters in Show Yourself To Me

Folks often ask about disability representation in this collection, and where to find it, so I put together this reference guide. Stories are listed in the order they appear in the collection. (MC = main character, SC = secondary character.) Missing Daddy: Main POV character (unnamed) has PTSD (briefly referenced at the beginning of the […]

Xan Reads Smut: A recording of “What I Need”

For the last three months, I posted audio recordings from the book, one per month. Here is October’s recording of A Large Full Meal. Here is November’s recording of Willing. This month, you can listen to me read an abridged version of “What I Need”, an erotica story from my collection Show Yourself To Me: […]

Xan Reads Smut: A recording of “Willing”

For the next three months, I will be posting audio recordings from the book, one per month. Here is October’s recording of A Large Full Meal. This month, you can listen to me read an abridged version of “Willing”, my most romantic story, centering a vampire taking a risk on a boy he might claim […]

Free Tam Lin Retelling by Kayla Bashe, to honor Non Linear Tam

(As a heads up, this post mentions suicide.) If you have read Show Yourself To Me, you likely will not be surprised by my love for the Tam Lin story. (My story, “The Tale of Jan and Tam” is a queer kink erotica Tam Lin retelling centering two disabled genderqueer characters, and set at Carter […]

A Roundup of Things I’ve Written About Trauma and Abuse

So I thought I might do a roundup page of links to stuff I have written about trauma and abuse, especially since more people may be coming to my website looking for that content. A bit of background: I am a survivor of multiple different kinds of abuse and trauma. I have complex PTSD as […]