I’ve been thinking about all that’s been happening with RWA, the recent actions of the Board and the stories that are coming out now about the ways marginalized people have been treated by this organization, and I think it’s really useful in these situations to gather pieces of the puzzle in order to parse patterns. So I want to […]
I sent this letter early this morning, regarding this situation. I may have further to say about this, but this is a start. To the members of the board of Romance Writers of America: I joined RWA because I felt hopeful that the organization was taking steps to be more inclusive & address the widespread […]
As a heads up, this post discusses gender policing, purges within lesbian feminism, and anti-butch hatred, and trans antagonism. I’m toying with the idea of writing about my experiences rewatching films and tv (and perhaps rereading books as well) that were important to me as a younger queer person and discussing what I get from […]
I’m thrilled to announce that my cis m/trans m story “A Good Beating” has been published on Sugarbutch.net! It’s an excerpt from my WIP novel ShockingViolet, and it depicts a cathartic SM scene between long term play partners. Hunter is a muscled bearded silver fox aroace gay cis leatherman dominant sadist who lives with his […]
I am incredibly honored to have won two 2019 NLA writing awards. It means so much to me to have my work recognized and valued by leather community in this way. My story “Trying Submission” from the anthology Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Vol 3, just won the National Leather Association John Preston Short Fiction […]
I got a question from someone who was reading my queer kink erotica collection, Show Yourself to Me. Since this is a rather common thing that I get asked about, I thought I’d post the question and my answer here. (As a heads up, this post openly discusses a Daddy/boy relationship, blood sports, sex, barebacking […]
These notes are intended to illuminate specific details about my novelette, Nine of Swords, Reversed. They contain some spoilers and are best read after reading the book. (As a heads up, this post briefly references kink, discusses ghosts and death, and includes reclaimed identity words like queer and faggot.) For information about the pronouns and […]
(As a heads up, this post discusses kink and in particular D/s at length, and also discusses representation of non-sexual kink in kink lit.) My novelette, Nine of Swords, Reversed, releases today. This is my first self-published book, my first published romance, and I am thrilled beyond measure to share this story, which is very […]
This post is part of the blog tour for Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 3! (As a heads up, this post discusses D/s dynamics at length and detail, with particular focus on service-based submission. It briefly references pain play.) I have very fond memories of my first experience with service-based submission. There was […]
As a heads up, this post discusses abusive BDSM relationships, intimate partner violence, and sexual assault. It also discusses ableism and stigma around mental illness in kink communities, anti-kink prejudice in survivor spaces and therapeutic treatment, and kink community responses to abuse. It includes a brief reference to an abusive therapist. It includes a brief […]
As a heads up, this post discusses taboo erotica. It mentions and occasionally gives examples that briefly describe some content of taboo erotica and some common taboo kinks like incest play, nonconsent, and water sports. It also discusses being a survivor of trauma and having taboo fantasies, though not in detail. I’ve been writing and […]
I thought I would post an excerpt from Shocking Violet, my kinky queer polyamorous romance novel WIP, for Valentine’s Day, as a present for you. It’s been over a year since I posted one, and I am nearing the finish line in my first draft. This is from Jax and Violet’s second date. Jax is […]
(As a heads up, this post will discuss consent and negotiation in BDSM, and specifically focuses on D/s. It briefly references consen violations, abuse, and sexual assault) “Building Something New” is a D/s focused story centering two trans queers who have been regular play partners for two years and are exploring taking their D/s […]
As a heads up, this essay tells several detailed stories about transmasculine people internalizing the cis gaze and passing those messages on to other transmasculine people, particularly with regards to sex, dating, romance, and relationships, and the representation of trans and/or non-binary people in romance and erotica. It includes descriptions of cissexism and internalized trans […]
As a heads up, this post will discuss consent in BDSM at length and with nuance, and will reference an abusive BDSM relationship briefly, without giving details. A few words about safewords Some kinky folks absolutely believe that safewords are necessary across the board for everyone. Some believe that it might be different with experienced […]
I began a new project this week. Each day, on twitter, I do a series of tweets describing one of my coping strategies and talking about how it works, what it is esp useful for, where I learned about it. As storify is shutting down, I’m linking directly to the beginning of the threads. If […]
This is the second post in a series for writers, especially writers of erotica and romance. This series is focused on writing sex scenes with trans and/or non-binary characters in a way that includes less unintentional cissexism. Part 1 focused on cissexism between characters during sex scenes. Parts 2-6 focus on bigger picture questions and narrative […]
This post has been written for Blogging Against Disablism Day 2016. In 2012, I started a new phase of writing. I decided to deliberately center disabled and sick characters in my erotic writing. This project began with the initial writing of my Tam Lin retelling, “The Tale of Jan & Tam,” in which I imagine […]
As a heads up, this post contains brief descriptions of sex and detailed descriptions of the ways fat oppression intersects with sexuality. As an adolescent, most of my peers thought I could not possibly be a viable sexual object, because I was fat. They made it clear that no one would ever want to date […]
This is the third post in my stone blog series. It may be helpful to read the series in order, starting with the first post defining stone and then reading the post describing the pleasures of stone sexuality, before reading this post. Stone avoids notice, skirts the light, prefers not to be spoken of, obfuscates […]
So today is my birthday, and what better day to start an awesome giveaway? Tarot-Themed Giveaway Bundle I’m very excited to offer a tarot-themed giveaway bundle that includes: a copy of my tarot-themed contemporary romance novelette Nine of Swords, Reversed For entrants in the US or Canada: either a copy of The Numinous Tarot or […]
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