A few resources on kink and chronic pain

In kink communities, we don’t talk a lot about chronic pain. We talk about pain as solely sexy, as punishment, as desired. In general our communities want to spend time talking about fun, hotness, and desire, and are much less interested in conversation about things like oppression, illness, disability, nonconsensual violence, or chronic pain. Someday, […]

Writing Erotica for Trans Readers Part 2: How I Write for Trans Readers

This is Part 2 of a 3 part series, written for #OutWriters. Part 1 is here. Part 3 is here. In my smut, I endeavor to describe sex and bodies so trans readers are less likely to be jolted out of erotic engagement. That is one of my primary goals in my erotica. I write with […]

Writing Erotica for Trans Readers, Part 1: Being a Trans Reader

When I heard about #OutWriters, I knew that I wanted to write about this subject, which is one of the central projects in my erotica writing. This is Part 1 of a three part blog series. Here is part 2. Part 3 is here. Being a Queer and Trans Reader There’s a thing that queers […]

Imagining Disabled Characters in Erotica

About two years ago, Sharon Wachsler asked Sinclair Sexsmith this question, as part of an interview about Best Lesbian Erotica 2012: “what would it add for you to find more disabled characters in erotica?” I thought it was a really useful question, and I wanted to contemplate it, and perhaps blog about it. It’s taken me […]

Access Intimacy: The Missing Link

Originally posted on Leaving Evidence:
There are many ways to describe intimacy.  For example, there’s physical intimacy, emotional intimacy, intellectual, political, familial or sexual intimacy.  But, as a physically disabled woman, there is another kind of intimacy I have been struggling to name and describe, what I have been calling “access intimacy.” I have begun…

Reminder: Disability and Kink Panel tomorrow 8/23 in SF

I will be on a panel discussing kink and disability in San Francisco tomorrow, Saturday August 23rd, 2014 at 6-830pm. It is at The Center for Sex and Culture 1349 Mission Street in San Francisco. There are seven amazing panelists. I am truly honored to be included with these folks: Carrie Wade, Corey Alexander (me!), […]