The problem I have when I read “no cis men (yes trans guys)” on a dating profile

(Note: this post was sparked by a post on Fetlife on this topic. I am bringing my thoughts here because I want them to be publicly accessible. There is already a lively dialogue on the OP, which I encourage you to explore.) I’m sitting at my computer, checking out another queer’s profile on Fetlife or […]

A few resources on kink and chronic pain

In kink communities, we don’t talk a lot about chronic pain. We talk about pain as solely sexy, as punishment, as desired. In general our communities want to spend time talking about fun, hotness, and desire, and are much less interested in conversation about things like oppression, illness, disability, nonconsensual violence, or chronic pain. Someday, […]

Writing Erotica for Trans Readers, Part 1: Being a Trans Reader

When I heard about #OutWriters, I knew that I wanted to write about this subject, which is one of the central projects in my erotica writing. This is Part 1 of a three part blog series. Here is part 2. Part 3 is here. Being a Queer and Trans Reader There’s a thing that queers […]

Imagining Disabled Characters in Erotica

About two years ago, Sharon Wachsler asked Sinclair Sexsmith this question, as part of an interview about Best Lesbian Erotica 2012: “what would it add for you to find more disabled characters in erotica?” I thought it was a really useful question, and I wanted to contemplate it, and perhaps blog about it. It’s taken me […]